I'm sick

It's been a while since I've posted... Just pure laziness on my part. Been having issues with TF, if you can imagine that... He just called and said "the 11th at 5" meaning that's when he wants to start his week visit. He is supposed to give me 30 days notice. He didn't. She has her 2nd Grade dental exam on the 13th and does NOT want him taking her. She cried when we discussed that he would have to take her if that's when he chose to take her. She doesn't wanna go. I don't want her to go.. Who knows who will be watching her. I'm sick

Lemme back up... here is a letter I sent him and my (former) atty and the judge which prompted his call just now:

"I’m writing you (and cc-ing Jeff **** and Judge ********) because you won’t answer when I call or return my call when I ask you to do so. It is utterly impossible to co-parent with you when you refuse to communicate with me.
As it is, you did not give 30 days notice for your week visit with Gracie this summer. I wrote you numerous times starting in the spring asking you to please let me know when / if you would exercise the allowed visitation (and for reimbursement for doctor, dentist and hospital bills). After continually being ignored, it was assumed you would not be exercising the visit (or paying me back what the court has ordered you to pay). Then on July 5, 2008 you screamed on my voice mail “oh yeah, this is my 30 days notice” (along with ordering me to “pick the little girl up in the street” rather than to pull into your driveway) but you neglected to give dates. I again wrote you, sending a handwritten note with Gracie, asking for dates. You refuse to communicate with me and I will not have you sending verbal messages through Gracie. So, unless you can calmly discuss with me spending time with Gracie by August 8th, there will be no week visit this year.
One last thing, PLEASE, if you are too busy to spend time with Gracie when it’s your weekend, do not send her off with some woman “far from daddy’s house without a car seat” so she can swim with people she has never met. I’d be happy to keep her instead."

So... as I was saying... I'm sick. I'll be re-instating a cell phone for her so I can be in contact with her... I've left a message (because he refuses to answer the phone when I call) that he needs to call me because we have things to discuss about the visit such as her dental appt and the fact that she WILL have a phone and that we will speak AT LEAST every other day.

Ugh... I'm just sick. He cannot be trusted to properly care for her and the damn judge doesn't care... "dad's have rights" and I agree but first they should have to prove they can handle being a parent which he has NOT. He was ordered to take parenting classes YEARS ago... still hasn't... still gets the normal dad's rights.